Softening the tone of questions with "ne"

We have seen before that 吧 can be used soften the tone of statements, or make commands feel more like suggestions. 呢 works in same way, but it is used to make questions more indirect and uncertain in tone.


呢 used successively with 还是

呢 can be used successively in questions using 还是:

V + N + 呢+ 还是 V + N + 呢 + ...

  • 我 去 缅甸 还是 去 泰国?我 得 想 一 想!
  • 咱们 打 电脑 游戏 还是 跟 朋友 去 泡 酒吧,我 都 可以!

The example sentences above almost have a tone that the speaker is talking to him/herself, as the question is not directly asked at the listener.

呢 with questions involving interrogative pronouns (哪儿,谁,怎么,什么 etc.)

  • 这 是 谁 的 笔? (I wonder whose pen this is)
  • 他 去 哪儿 ( I wonder where he's going?)
  • 怎么 会 (How could that be?)

In the previous example, the speaker has a tone of conjecture, a bit like saying "I wonder" in English. Again, as in the first example, the question is not directly asked at the listener. Adding 呢 to 怎么会 as in the last example sentence can sound a bit girly; overusing 呢 can have this result.


呢 with "verb 不 verb" questions

If a "verb 不 verb" question is posed without 呢, it can appear as though the speaker is a bit impatient, or is ordering the listener to do something. This of course depends on the tone of voice used. Adding 呢 can give a tone of uncertainty, and is more polite.

  • 你 去 不 去 逛街? (Well are you going to go shopping or what??)
  • 你 去 不 去 逛街(Are you going to go shopping?)
  • 牛奶 你 喝 不 喝? (Said to a child, with the implication that if the milk isn't drunk, there will be consequences, with emphasis placed on 喝)
  • 牛奶你喝不喝 (Perhaps said to a friend, with no implication of coercion. Perhaps you want to clear away their cup)
  • 你周末能不能加班?(Perhaps a manager asking a subordinate. This is not too direct, as 能 has been added. Saying 你加不加班 would seem more like an order)
  • 你周末能不能加班(Quite indirect, something like "Would you mind coming in on the weekend?")

Again, the meaning of the above sentences depends on context, and the interpretations given are just examples.

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