Softening the tone of questions with "ne"

We have seen before that 吧 can be used to soften the tone of statements, or make commands feel more like suggestions. 呢 works in same way, but it is used to make questions more indirect and uncertain in tone.

呢 Used Successively with 还是

呢 can be used successively in questions using 还是.


Option 1 + 呢 + 还是 + Option 2 + 呢?


  • 我 去 缅甸 还是 泰国?我 得 想 一 想!Wǒ qù Miǎndiàn ne, háishì Tàiguó ne? Wǒ děi xiǎng yi xiǎng!Should I go to Myanmar or Thailand? I have to think a bit!
  • 咱们 打 游戏 还是 泡吧 ,我 都 可以!Zánmen dǎ yóuxì ne, háishì pào bā ne, wǒ dōu kěyǐ!Should we play video games or go to the bar? I'm OK with either!

The example sentences above almost have a tone that the speaker is talking to him/herself, as the question is not directly asked of the listener. A second verb is only necessary if different from the first verb.

呢 with Questions Involving Interrogative Pronouns

Interrogative pronouns, of course, include 哪儿,谁,怎么,什么, 为什么, 什么时候, etc.


⋯⋯Interrogative Pronoun⋯⋯ + 呢?


  • 这 是 谁 的 笔 ?Zhè shì shéi de bǐ ne?I wonder whose pen this is?
  • 他 去 哪儿 了 呢Tā qù nǎr le ne?I wonder where he's going?
  • 怎么 会 Zěnme huì ne?How could that be?

In the previous examples, the speaker has a tone of conjecture, a bit like saying "I wonder" in English. Again, as in the first usage, the question is not directly asked of the listener. Overusing 呢 in your questions can sound a bit feminine, though, so keep this in mind.

呢 with "Verb 不 Verb" Questions

If a "verb 不 verb" question is posed without 呢, it can appear as though the speaker is a bit impatient, or is ordering the listener to do something. Tone of voice used is also an important factor here, and adding 呢 can give a tone of uncertainty, which sounds less demanding and more polite.


Subj. + Verb 1 + 不 + Verb 1 + (Verb 2) + 呢?


  • 去 不 去 逛街 ?Said as though demanding an answer, potentially in a hurry.qù bu qù guàngjiē?Well are you going to go shopping or what?
  • 去 不 去 逛街 Less intense, just asking a question.qù bu qù guàngjiē ne?Are you going to go shopping?
  • 牛奶 你 喝 不 喝Said to a child, with the implication that if the milk isn't drunk, there will be consequences, with emphasis placed on 喝Niúnǎi nǐ hē bu hē?Are you gonna drink the milk or not?
  • 牛奶 你 喝 不 喝 Perhaps said to a friend, with no implication of coercion. Perhaps you want to clear away their cup.Niúnǎi nǐ hē bu hē ne?Did you want to drink that milk?
  • 你 周末 加 不 加班Perhaps a manager asking a subordinate. This seems like an order, perhaps implying there will be consequences for not working overtime.Nǐ zhōumò jiā bu jiābān?You're working this weekend, right?
  • 你 周末 能 不 能 加班 ?Perhaps a manager asking a subordinate. This is not super direct, as 能 has been added.Nǐ zhōumò néng bu néng jiābān?Can you come into work on the weekend?
  • 你 周末 能 不 能 加班 Much more indirect than the above example, implying the person really does have a choice.Nǐ zhōumò néng bu néng jiābān ne?Would you mind coming in on the weekend?")

Remember: the exact meaning of the above sentences depends on the full context, and tone of voice is very important as well. The interpretations given are just possible examples.

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